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  Originally, they were designed to help vulva owners strengthen their pelvic floor muscles. But nowadays, they’re used as sex toys — especially in kink and BDSM scenes as a form of domination play. Finn explains: “The Dominant partner might have the submissive partner hold the balls inside their vagina as an endurance exercise.” (Is that iconic scene in “Fifty Shades of Grey” coming to mind?). For folks who are new to Ben Wa ball use, Finn recommends silicone balls, like the CalExotics Kegel-Training Strawberry Set or Satisfyer V Balls. More advanced users might try weighted Ben Wa balls, like Lelo Luna Beads or We-Vibe Bloom vibrating Kegel balls. Miscellaneous pleasure products for penis owners If you think sex toys for penis owners start and end with masturbation sleeves, be prepared to be proven wrong. Pulsator Rather than using vibration or thrusting, pulsators use oscillating technology to get you off.

  The most popular toy on the pulsator market is the Hot Octopuss Pulse. Dubbed the first “Guybrator,” this toy wraps around the penis and jacks it off using oscillation (or more specifically, something called “PulsePlate Technology”). There’s also the Hot Octopuss Pulse Duo, which can be used with a partner with a vulva for a hot shared experience. Automatic masturbators Whether you can’t physically use your hands to jack off or simply don’t want to, automatic masturbators are a good bet — they do all the work for you. Here’s how it works: You lube up the toy, your penis, or both, and put your peen inside the toy, then turn it on so it can get busy. Intrigued? Check out Own Pleasures 10 Dual Motor Automatic Male Masturbator. Masturbation sleeves “Masturbation sleeves are things that go over the penis that you can either thrust into, or move up and down with the help of your hand,” Corrado explains.

  Likely, the Fleshlight comes to mind. But that’s just one of the many masturbation sleeves available for purchase. Other popular masturbation sleeves include: Tenga Egg Tenga Zero Flip Hole Luxury Male Masturbator The ROCCO JackDaddy Stroker Cock ring Typically made of silicone, nitrile, or stainless steel, cock rings are designed to go over the base of the penis to keep the blood flow from moving back in the body. The result? Stronger erections, and sometimes delayed ejaculation. Stretchy, adjustable, and stainless cock rings are often designed to go under the scrotum, too. Vibrating cock rings go at the base of the penis. “The benefit of most vibrating cock rings is that they can be positioned to apply stimulation to the scrotum or to provide clitoral stimulation to a vulva owner during partnered sex,” Corrado says.

  She recommends the We-Vibe Verge or the Lelo Tor Ohnut Technically speaking, the Ohnut isn’t a sex toy so much as it’s a sex aid. However, it’s a product all people with penises who sleep with vulva owners should know about. This product slips over the base of the penis to limit how much of the penis is able to go inside the vagina during P-in-V intercourse. The point? To make penetrative intercourse more pleasurable for vulva owners who might otherwise find it painful. Butt toys Finally! The part of the guide where we talk about butt stuff! “Why anal toys can be pleasurable is pretty simple,” Wolfe says. “No matter what your genitals are, your anus is loaded with nerve endings.” Butt plug “Butt plugs can create a pleasurable sensation of being stretched or of being full,” Wolfe says. “And for vulva owners, because the anal canal and vaginal canal are right next door, they can also be worn in the anus to make the vaginal cavity tighter,” they add. Beyond just being pleasurable for a partner with a penis during P-in-V, a tight vaginal canal can increase the feeling of fullness for the vulva owner.

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 According to Wolfe, this can increase the chance that the G-spot gets touched during penetration. Choose your next butt plug based on your experience level with anal: Beginner: b-Vibe Snug Plug 1 Intermediate: nJoy Pure Plug Advanced: b-Vibe Rimming Plug 2 or b-Vibe Bump Textured Plug Anal beads “While butt plugs are about creating a sustained sensation, anal beads are generally about one moment and movement,” Wolfe says. “They’re designed to massage the sphincter when they go in and create a pleasure pop when they’re pulled out,” they add. Intrigued? Check out b-Vibe’s Cinco anal beads, which have a vibrating option. Prostate massagers We’ve already touched on vibrating prostate massagers, but — spoiler alert — not all prostate massagers vibrate. Some are basically just butt plugs with a special shape (aka increased curve) to support prostate stimulation.

  “Prostates respond well to firm, methodical pressure,” Finn says. “Often the base of the prostate massager will have a handle so that you can rock the toy back and forth against the prostate to create that pressure.” For intense, vibration-free prostate stimulation, check out the Aneros MGX prostate stimulator. Toys for the kink-curious “Most beginner kink toys are all about eroticizing erogenous zones that often get ignored, or creating surprising sensations,” Wolfe says. Here’s where to start. Blindfold It’s simple: By taking away one sense (your sight!), your other senses become much more heightened. “Touch becomes that much more electric when you can’t see what’s coming,” Finn says. Make your own blindfold out of a bandana or tie. Or, check out this Sex & Mischief satin blindfold. Feather teaser “Feather teasers can be used to provide a really gentle touch along the body,” Finn says. “They’re especially great after impact play on the now-much-more-sensitive area.”

  Check out: Sex & Mischief feather tickler Unbound Tsk Babeland pleasure feather Handcuffs Like the idea of having to tell your partner exactly what you like, because you can’t show them? Turned on by the concept of being dominated? Give handcuffs a try. “I don’t recommend classic police-style handcuffs, because they’re metal and could potentially cut one of the important veins near your wrist,” Finn says. She recommends something that either has a wider cuff strap or is made out of a flexible material, like: Unbound Cuffies Babeland Heart 2 Heart cuffs Sportsheets adjustable wrist cuffs Note on safety: You should never ever (!) leave someone bound in handcuffs unattended. Sex furniture Sex furniture might sound super, ahem, freaky, but even if you and your partner identify as The Most Basic Couple In The World, sex furniture can be used to make your sex life more pleasurable.

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  “Really, sex furniture is just designed to help you and your partner get in more comfortable positions during positions you already love — or want to try but can’t due to physical limitations,” Wolfe says. Pillow and wedge Unlike the pillows you sleep on (which are usually squishy), sex pillows and wedges are made of a stiff (but comfortable!) foam that helps support your body, explains Wolfe. “They’re great for folks who aren’t super flexible, or who have a tough time holding up their body weight,” Wolfe says. Try propping the Dame Pillo under your hips during anal missionary so you and your partner can enjoy eye contact during anal sex — or to increase the chance that your partner hits your G-spot during penetrative play. The Liberator Wedge is a great option if you’re looking for a pillow to make doggy style better. “If the receiving partner leans over the pillow, they won’t sink into the bed,” Wolfe says. Sex swing

  Sure, sex swings can be used by kinky couples. But according to Wolfe, “They’re a great option for any couple that wants to try new positions, angles, or heights.” For example, with the help of a sex swing, “standing” positions that require one partner to support the other’s body weight suddenly become available. What sex swing should you get? Consider these: If you’re short on space: Sportsheets Door Jam Sex Sling If you’ve got a sex dungeon or room: Extreme Restraints Sling and Swing Stand If you don’t have housemates: Trinity Vibes Ultimate Spinning Swing So, what sex toy should you buy? It all comes down to knowing what you like and finding a toy that helps you do it. Or, knowing what you like, and finding a toy that gives you a little extra-extra while you’re doing it! So, before you hand over your credit card, spend some time getting down with your sexy self and learning what you like! Try not to pout: There have been wayyy worse homework assignments than “masturbate.”

  What is your relationship with self-pleasure? This may be one of the most difficult things to talk about as a person with vulva in Singapore. Our sexual education in schools is limited and we still suffer from what is known as the orgasm gap. For now, let's focus on sex toys for pals with vulvae specifically. How and where do you look for sex toys? How can you get away with doing so without being so embarrassed you might explode? Before we begin, figure out what you like by using nature's toys: your fingers. Touch, stroke, circle or rub your clitoris, try fingering yourself or even rubbing your vulva. Do you prefer internal or external stimulation or both? Do you like stimulating your G-spot? How much thickness is too much? Do you prefer something stiffer? These can inform your purchasing decision. That said, you need to figure out what your budget is as these toys can be quite pricey. This does not mean those that cost less are terrible, they may just come with fewer features such as waterproofing or require batteries instead of being chargeable. MATERIAL OF SEX TOYS Now, let’s talk about the types of sex toys and what makes a cheap or expensive toy. The main difference would be the materials used and the technology behind it. It’s quite similar to buying computer parts in that sense. Unfortunately, the sex toy industry is not regulated, so sometimes you may not even be certain of its purity. Make sure to look at the materials used and keep yourself informed as some of these toys may be made with cheaper, and sometimes dangerous, material.

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 The main types of materials used are: Silicone Being squishy (and hence somewhat lifelike) as well as mostly inert, silicone is the most popular choice for sex toys. Look out for “phthalate-free” and “body-safe” in the copy, and either “food-grade,” or “medical-grade” in the ingredients. Theoretically, all silicone should not be porous and stay inert. “Food-grade” is not medically tested, but the idea is that food-grade silicone does not transfer chemicals to food when it’s heated or cooled. The theory is that food-grade silicone will work the same way with the human body, but this is unproven. The safest option, especially if the toy is being inserted, is medical-grade silicone. This is also the most expensive option. This is the material used in breast implants and is regulated by the FDA's Center for Devices and Radiological Health. Medical-grade silicone is the only one that has actually been tested to interact with human bodies.

  Fake silicone Some toys may be listed as silicone, but the ingredient list may say “jelly rubber” and polyvinyl chloride (PVC). These are porous, meaning that bacteria can get inside the toy and make it almost impossible to clean properly. Remember the clear jelly shoes that were trendy a while back? Those were also made of jelly rubber. These tend to be much more affordable, but are not very hygienic and may produce smells or become sticky after some time. Glass or metal (steel) These are inert materials that won't leak chemicals or harbour bacteria (as long as you're washing your toys correctly). Glass or metal toys can be very durable and hygienic, but the rigid material may be a con to some. The qualities of the material also allow for temperature-play exploration. This category of toys would be in the mid-range. If you want something that has some tech in it, i.e. is powered (vibrates or thrusts), silicone will likely be the material that encapsulates the tech. This is why silicone toys can range from $50 to a few hundred. This is then dependent on the technology included in your toy. Premium features could be being packaged in an inconspicuous container (like a lamp or necklace), having an app that allows remote (Bluetooth or long distance) control, or being self-thrusting. Generally, $50-$70 can get you a quality toy that will last.

  In general, for penetrative toys, the expert advice would be to always put a condom over your toy to ensure safety. This is particularly for fake silicone or food-grade silicone toys (if you’re super concerned!) Condoms also make using sex toys with multiple partners safer. TYPES OF SEX TOYS Besides the material used, sex toys aimed at those with vulvas can be broken down roughly into internal and external stimulators. In general, external stimulation focuses on the clitoris or the labia majora, while internal stimulation focuses on penetration or the G-spot. Some have both too! External stimulators Vacuum suction

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 A recent innovation, these toys feature a flickering or sucking sensation that focuses on the clitoris. This is ideal for people who love clitoris stimulation, but not if you get overstimulated easily, or if your clitoris is hyper-sensitive. General external vibrators They may look like an egg or some other innocuous flat item. It’s meant to be used by holding it against your labia majora (or wearing it in your underwear for the lazier of us), for slight stimulation. They can also be vibrators for the clitoris. It applies a more general pressure and may be better for those who dislike extreme focus on the clitoris. Wands Made famous by Sex and the City, the wand-type toy is modelled after the iconic Hitachi wand. Many options are available on the market now, from wired (for very intense vibrations) to rechargeable (wire-free) and waterproof. The wired options may be louder and be uncomfortable to use if you’re afraid of being overheard. This toy is an in-between option where you can exercise control by placing it on the clitoris or a more general area. Some wands also have attachments that allow for internal stimulation as well.

 Internal stimulators Dildos Probably the most well-known type of toy, dildos are made of the most varied material and can come in 'realistic' and more 'fantastical' shapes. Fantastical shapes can be intimidating and are also more expensive. Dildos range in size from 3 inches to 11 inches and colour, from flesh tones to the rainbow. There is also a range of diameters it comes in, so look out for that information if you know you prefer a certain thickness. Dildos may be straightforward, but you can be inventive with them. Some feature a suction cup too! Rabbits Rabbits are touted as the best of both worlds, stimulating both the clitoris, typically having a two-pronged external feature (thus giving it the moniker “rabbit,” although some just feature one prong) as well as a penetrative dildo part. The idea is that moving the dildo will move the external feature against the clitoris as well. Some rabbit toys also vibrate, and some allow individual control of both the rabbit and dildo. This toy may not be suitable if you think your clitoris is spaced a bit farther/closer than the average as the rabbit feature may not touch your clitoris.

  G-spot targeters These are quite similar to dildos in that they are a similar shape, though they can sometimes be a rabbit as well. These toys are specifically angled to reach that elusive “magic spot” instead of the more straightforward in-out of a dildo. These are great for those who love stimulating the g-spot. How do you judge if you will like such toys? Here’s a handy guide with some tips on how to evaluate a toy! WHERE TO BUY TOYS (DISCREETLY) Here's the hard part now that you know more about toys. Where can you get them? Although we may believe and advocate for taking charge of your self-pleasure and freeing yourself from shame, it is a fact that people still judge when you even simply take a glance at the condom section. With that, we offer some recommendations that can help you avoid these barriers.

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  First of all, other than physical sex shops that seem seedy, Watson's and Guardian actually sell a few of the types we spoke about, for a reasonable ($50 range) price and performance! They stock toys from Smile Makers, a local company focusing on women's pleasure. This line of toys can also be found on The WYLD Shop, Qoo10 and Lazada. Other than these "normal" shops, be it online or physical, you can obviously find toys on sex toy websites (a simple Google search will produce results). Most of them offer discreet shipping, which means that these come in unbranded brown packaging with little to no information. If you're concerned about your family finding out, local ones will also offer POPstation pickup or store pickup (usually at innocuous warehouses, no fear, except perhaps when you face the receptionist). You can also look at some international sex toy websites, as they may offer free shipping as well as student discounts When it comes to most activities in life, the right tools can help you get there, and then some. That’s especially true for sex. Whether you’re looking to have fun on your own, or with others, the right sex toys can help amplify pleasure and reintroduce a bit of curiosity and novelty into the bedroom. We don’t have to tell you all the benefits of an orgasm!

  Sex toys are fast becoming household staples, and why not? The 21st century has brought us plenty of life-changing tech and the same goes for adult toys. If you’re new to the sex toy scene or just looking to learn more, then keep on reading! In this complete guide to sex toys, we talk about: finding a suitable toy for you avoiding what’s wrong for you which toys we recommend how to store and clean those prized possessions best practice tips Before you get down and dirty, get educated! What to look for (or look OUT for) when finding the right toy You’re not alone on your search for the perfect sex toy. In fact, 50% of women start using sex toys in their 20s!

  To figure out the best toy for you, identify and isolate what you’re trying to do with your sex toy. For example, are you looking to stimulate a specific body part, treat yourself – or your partner? Perhaps you’re looking for something to enhance how you already have sex or something utterly new to spice things up. Once you’ve got an idea in your head of what you’re looking for, you can begin to decide on the sex toy that will help you reach your sexy goals. guide to sex toys If you want… CLITORAL STIMULATION Vibrators of all kinds, especially wands, and bullets, are perfect for externally stimulating the clitoris. For those who are ultra sensitive, there are now toys that stimulate the clitoris via pulsation, and air (i.e. The Womanizer). PENETRATIVE (VAGINAL, OR G-SPOT) STIMULATION Dildos, and classic vibrators can be used to penetrate and stimulate from the inside, out. There are G-spot specific vibrators and dildos that are less ‘real-feel’ and more so designed to reach that special place.

  BOTH CLITORAL AND VAGINAL Why not have the best of both worlds? Rabbit-style vibrators have both an internal penetrative component and an external clitoral stimulator. Make sure whichever dual-stimulation toy you purchase has a clitoral stimulator that works for you and your body. Clitoral stimulators that are soft and flexible work best as they adapt to your shape and movement. SEX SIMULATORS Fleshlights, sex dolls, and real-feel butts, boobs, and dildos, are all great sex toy options for those who want to get closer to the real experience. PROSTATE STIMULATION The elusive prostate is well worth a tickle. If you’re looking for a mind-blowing sensation, then make sure to keep a prostate massager in your sex toy arsenal.

  “There aren’t lots of vibration-focused nerves deeper in the vagina or anus, but they do feel pressure, motion, and fullness,” says Queen. When shopping for a dildo, consider the weight, depth, texture, and even temperature you want to feel. Glass dildos can be frozen if you like your sex cold and with a popsicle. Expert Recommendation: Tantus Beginner Kit Types of Sex Toys - Tantus Bend Over Beginner Harness Dildo Kit “Choosing a favorite dildo is like choosing a favorite ice cream flavor,” says Miller. “But anything by Tantus is amazing.” G-Spot and A-Spot Sex Toys You don’t need Young Money to make your room into the G-Spot, no matter how much he claims to make your bed rock. G-spot or A-spot toys are curved to help hit the front wall of the vagina, which contains the feel-good clitoral tissue that creates vaginal orgasms. G-spot and A-spot stimulation toys can come in many shapes and sizes, as well with or without vibration. “They are intended to stimulate either the G-spot or the A-spot (anterior fornix, tucked in under the cervix) so they will be curved to better reach these areas,” says Queen. “G-spot toys may also have a rounded end that can ‘grab’ the G-spot and focus on it.” Expert Recommendation: Gläs G-Spot Tickler Types of Sex Toys - Glas Purple G-Spot Tickler Toy “For targeted G-spot toying, I find myself going to the Gläs Purple G-Spot Tickler,” says Miller. “It’s no frills, feels comfortable in my hands, plays well with all lubes because it’s glass.”

  Combination or Rabbit Vibrators Combination vibrators are like a dildo and a clitoral vibrator put together. They have an internal vibrator and external vibrating parts so you can stimulate the clitoris and the vagina at the same time. These vibrators can come with rotating or thrusting parts to increase the intense stimulation. “Two separate erogenous areas are stimulated at the same time, and that can result in a blended orgasm or just a lot of pleasure,” says Queen. They’re perfect for solo play since they can provide so much stimulation with one hand. Otherwise, you’d need one partner to hold the clitoral vibrator, another partner to thrust in the dildo, and somebody to prepare the post-game snacks. The rabbit was invented by Vibratex and came in bright colors with cute vibrating animals to get around the country’s obscenity laws. They’re called rabbits because of their ear-shaped clitoral stimulators. If you’re looking for the OG, try the pearl rabbit. Expert Recommendation: We-Vibe Nova 2 Rabbit Types of Sex Toys - We-vibe Nova 2 Flexible Rabbit Vibrator “This is a no-frills rabbit that provides great flexibility and a bit of rigidity for constant, body-hugging contact,” says Miller.

  Cock Rings Cock rings go around the base of the penis to keep the blood flow in, which helps erections last longer. They can also have attached vibrators for some extra buzz. “Vibrating cock rings are often a form of a couple’s toy, with the vibe intended to add clitoral stimulation,” says Queen. “But plenty of users like to experience the vibrations themselves, and they will be more intense if the ring is worn up at the head of the penis.” Expert Recommendation: Satisfyer Power Ring Types of Sex Toys - Satisfyer Vibrating Cock Ring “Satisfyer vibrating rings are affordable, rechargeable, and come in many shapes,” says Miller. One ring to rule them all, indeed. Butt Plugs and Prostate Massagers Butt plugs stimulate the anal cavity and, in people who have one, the prostate. It can also create a pleasant “full” sensation if you wear it while receiving vaginal penetration.

  “People of any gender and anatomy might enjoy these toys, because they stimulate the sensitive anus and anal canal,” says Queen. Their anal play pro tip: “Always use lube!” Toys are not one-size-fits-all-holes. Repeat after us: nothing goes in the anus without a flared base. You need a toy that can safely be inserted without getting lost. It’s all fun and games until somebody needs to go to the ER. They don’t have Twister there anymore. Expert Recommendation: Blush B Yours Slim Anal Plug Types of Sex Toys - Blush B Yours Slim Anal Plug “The Blush B Yours Slim anal plug is a great, body safe plug that’s non-threatening for beginners,” says Miller. Anal Beads Anal beads are a string of beads that are designed to massage the sphincter when inserted and when slowly removed. “Anal beads are often graduated in size, so smaller ones are inserted first, and they get larger as you go,” says Queen. “Pulling them out can be intense and pleasurable–it can trigger an orgasm for some people.” Expert Recommendation: Naughty Bits Butt Balls Types of Sex Toys - Naughty Bits Anal Beads Butt Balls

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  “They are tapered, made of silicone, and come in cute packaging,” says Miller. They’ll work great once you stop giggling over the name. Cock Sleeves “Sleeves are toys that the penis can penetrate,” says Queen. “They are hand job enhancers and may also have a vibrator built in for extra sensation.” Sleeves are perfect for mutual masturbation sessions or solo time. Additional fashion accessories like a jaunty hat are optional. Expert Recommendation: 6-Pack of Studded Cock Sleeves Types of Sex Toys - Crystalline TPR Cock Sleeves “This pack is cheap and gives you six options so you can try them out and see what you like the most,” says Miller. It also gives you the wearer feeling the feeling that they’re the missing member of Judas Priest. 1 Couples Sex Toys “Any toy can be a couple’s toy, but some are specifically designed with partner sex in mind,” says Queen. Sex toys for couples may be insertables that create sensations for both partners. Some are remote controlled so your partner can push your buttons. In a fun way this time! Expert Recommendation: We-Vibe Chorus Couples Vibrator Types of Sex Toys - We-Vibe Chorus Couples Vibrator with remote “The toy has amazing build quality and the best app in the industry,” says Miller. “It’s adjustable so it stays in better than earlier iterations.”

  1 Impact and Sensation Toys Our bodies are full of erogenous zones besides the genitals. There are toys that can enhance the sensations of sex: blindfolds, feather ticklers, handcuffs, whips, riding crops, and more. When experimenting with sensations and kinks, it’s important to keep safety and preference in mind. “People choosing impact toys should familiarize themselves with safe striking information, since some parts of the body shouldn’t be hit,” says Queen. “They’ll also want to learn which toys are more ‘stingy’ vs ‘thuddy’, as people sometimes have a strong preference on which they like.” Self-care is one of those buzzwords that’s been used so often that it’s gone on to cease all meaning. These days you can whack on a scented candle and munch on a carrot stick and call it self-care, but what does true, unapologetic self-love really mean? It means, putting your own happiness, needs, and pleasure first and foremost before everything else – and with that, cue the dildos. Masturbating and sexual pleasure should be up there with your Garnier sheet mask when it comes to your self-care routine. And since it’s so integral to our psyche, why not elevate your experiences by investing in a toy or two? Knowing where to start in choosing the best one for you and your specific needs can be daunting. So we’ve done our research and found an array of sexy toys to suit every person and desire, so you can go ahead and skip straight to the good bit.

 Dildos We’ve all heard of a dildo, but do we actually know what it is? Well, they’re non-vibrating sex toys that are for penetration and internal massage. They can come in all different shapes and sizes, so it’s important to choose the right one according to your body and needs. A dildo is perfect for people who are looking for straight-up vaginal penetration and/or g-spot stimulation. SILEXD – DUAL DENSITY MEMORY SILICONE PREMIUM PINK 7 – €295 Vibrator Now, if your standard dildo won’t be enough to get your rocks off, you can turn your attention to the vibrator instead. A vibrator is any sex toy that buzzes and vibrates, and can be used on anywhere you please, not just genitals. If you’re looking to stimulate your endogenous zones, wherever they are for you, then this is your toy. Svakom Siren Fluttering Rechargeable Vibrator – €90 Clitoral Massager

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 From robust wands to tiny bullets, the clitoral massager comes in many forms. If you’re a female who needs clitoral stimulation during your alone time then a clitoral massager is the best way to bring yourself to climax. Womanizer Duo Rechargeable G-Spot and Clitoral Stimulator – €202 Anal Plugs/Beads Many sex toys aren’t just targeted at the vulva and vagina. For the slightly more adventurous, anal plugs and beads stimulate nerve endings at the opening of the anus, making them perfect for women who are looking for pleasure in that area, whether you’re going at it alone or with a partner. KissToy Orville Anal Vibrator – €50.99

 Toys Designed For Partners If you’re looking to add a little bit of excitement to yourself and your partner’s love life, then investing in some toys that will pleasure you both is the way to go. Penis rings work by providing stimulation to both your partner’s penis and your vulva, and double-ended dildos can provide penetration to two people at once. Rechargeable Vibrating Bullet Cock Ring – €32 Accessories Other than your classic dildo or vibrator, you can spice up your sex life with yourself or a partner by using some accessories designed to get your senses tingling. Massage gels, lubricants, blindfolds, and handcuffs are all perfect for getting you in the mood and adding an extra layer of fun and excitement on top of your pleasure.

  Feeling adventurous? In this witty and well-informed consumer guide, best-selling author and sex educator Violet Blue shows couples how to choose and use sex toys to play and explore together — and have mind-blowing sex. She leads readers through the maze of sex toys on the market, explaining the many options available, including different materials, care and cleaning, and how to see through exaggerated marketing claims. Along the way Violet offers tips on creative usage and ideas for introducing sex toys to a relationship: how to ask your boyfriend to use the blindfold in your bedside drawer or how to surprise your wife with a saucy gift without getting your face slapped (unless that was the point). The Adventurous Couple’s Guide to Sex Toys takes a practical, sex-positive approach to pleasure, with plenty of safety advice and a list of websites for savvy online shopping. But why stop with the basics? Care to enact a threesome fantasy with two people? Set up the sexiest lighting for a webcam show? Dream of owning a steel cage dining table for captivating dinner parties? From the tried-and-true to the truly spectacular, you’ll find it here in The Adventurous Couple’s Guide. But when it comes to talking with adults, I could talk about sex toys for days. I mean, there's a reason Sex Toy parties are a thing. Once you get past the awkwardness, it's just fun. And maybe it's the company I keep, but every girls night ends up on the topic at some point. But there's good reason to dish about what you like! After all, pleasure, alone or with a partner is one of the best ways to de-stress, relax, and connect. (Who doesn't need as much of that as possible right now?) And while you don't necessarily need an object to make it enjoyable, the addition of a vibrator or sex toy definitely ups the ante.

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  Whether you’re perusing the aisles and displays at a store or scrolling online, shopping for a sex toy can be a little overwhelming. We’re here to help with this beginners guide. Bringing a sex toy into the bedroom isn’t something you reserve only for steamy nights with your significant other. Sex toys open women up to a range of sensations that you just can’t experience with your hands or with a partner. As well as offering pleasure and fun, sex toys can provide an array of health benefits. Studies conducted at Indiana University in the USA found that 53% of women and 45% of men aged between 18-65 years had used a vibrator, and that vibrator use is associated with improved sexual function and being more proactive about sexual health. For women, sex toys can be helpful in the treatment of menopausal symptoms such as vulval/vaginal pain and tightness. For men, there are a number of sexual problems that may be helped by using specific sex toys. These include erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, lack of libido, and post-surgical problems for a variety of conditions. Using sex toys to enhance sexual pleasure and orgasm can help you to sleep, boost immunity, relieve pain, reduce stress, and boost your brainpower. For men and women, one benefit of introducing sex toys into the dynamic is to open up a dialogue about healthy sex and what they enjoy as individuals and a couple.

  Similar to experiencing new sex positions, it may be something you haven’t tried before due to embarrassment or fear of purchasing items, but you may find that your sex health benefits from this new openness. Here is a guide to help you choose healthy sex toys: Dildos A dildo is anything vaguely phallic-shaped, that’s designed to penetrate a vagina, mouth, or anus. Standard dildos: They most resemble biological penises in shape and function. Our pick: Lynx Textured dildos: Changing the material the dildo is made out of to vary the sensation. Our pick: Pure Love Double-ended dildos: Depending on the shape, double-ended dildos allow you to experiment with double penetration either in the same hole or in different holes, for a sense of fullness. Our pick: Lynx Vibrators A vibrator is a vibrating tool used for external and internal sexual stimulation, whether by penetration or application to various erogenous zones. It comes in many shapes and sizes.

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  External Vibrators Palm vibrator: designed to cover the vulva and stimulate your labia and clit. Our pick: Svakom Panty vibrator: clip into your panties for hands-free clitoral stimulation. Our pick: Pelepas Wand vibrator: have a bulbous head that’s designed to deliver super intense, rumbly vibrations anywhere on the body. Our pick: Pure Love Finger vibrator: slide onto or sit between two digits so you can bring your hands between your legs to enjoy the vibration. Our pick: Paloqueth Bullet vibrator: provide buzzy, low-intensity vibration to your bits. They fit inside most harnesses to give the strap-on wearer stimulus. Our pick: Phanxy Vibrating penis ring: slide over the penis and offer stimulation to the scrotum or a partner’s clit during penetration. Our pick: loverbeby Penis vibrator: designed specifically to fit over, or encase, the penis with vibration. Our pick: Alllovers Internal Vibrators G-spot vibrator – The G-spot is a nerve-dense pleasure zone located 2 inches inside along the front vaginal wall. G-spot vibrators are ergonomically designed to stimulate this zone. Our pick: Phanxy

  Egg vibrator: Slightly larger than a bullet vibrator, egg vibes are designed to be inserted vaginally for internal stimulation. Also comes on a stick for beginners. Our pick: Phanxy Anal vibrator: Any vibrator with a flared base qualifies as an anal vibrator. The most common are vibrating butt plugs. Our pick: Paloqueth Combination Vibrator A combination of internal and external vibrators. Rabbit vibrators – the most common type of combination vibrator feature a curled nub for G-spot stimulation and an external nub for clitoral stimulation. Our pick: Paloqueth Alternative Sex Toys Blindfold – by removing one sense, your other senses become much more heightened. Feather teaser, oils, and scents – provides gentle touch and sensation across the body, great after impact play on sensitive areas. Our pick: Romantic Getaway Kit

 Sex furniture – designed to help you and your partner get in more comfortable positions during positions you already love — or want to try but can’t due to physical limitation. Our pick: Sex Pillow Wedge What’s The Best Sex Toy? It all comes down to knowing what you like and finding a toy that helps you do it. Or, knowing what you like, and finding a toy that gives you a little extra-extra while you’re doing it! So, before you hand over your credit card, spend some time getting down with yourself and learning what you like. WHY IS IT SO HARD TO BREAK A CYCLE OF DEBT? Toys: fun! Sex: usually great! But put those words together and you run the gamut of reactions from clueless blank looks to passionate enthusiasm to terrified images of spikes in places where there should NOT be sharp objects. But as millions of people know, there is very little to fear and a lot of fun to be had. Half of women who use sex toys purchased their first toy in their 20s, which as you may notice, is the age of most Literally, Darling readers. Therefore, it is my journalistic duty as Health Editor to report on such important matters, because I know in the age of online review overload, there are lots of questions. Adam & Eve, the nation’s largest marketer of adult products, has offered up a great infographic as starting point—and reassurance that sex toys are quite common (and have been around for 28,000 years!). They also granted us access to their resident sexpert, Dr. Kat (yes, she actually has a PhD in Human Sexuality/Clinical Sexology from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality), to answer some of LD’s most pressing questions about sex toys.

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  What should beginners look for in a sex toy? Dr. Kat: “Think about how you masturbate and what stimulation feels the best. Clitoral, vaginal, G-Spot, anal? Then begin looking at toy categories that target these areas. Read reviews. There can be a wide variety of power options and intensities. Some people prefer stronger vibration so they may want to choose a vibrator that plugs in; others might like indirect or mild stimulation. Choose a rechargeable vibe if you don’t want to deal with batteries. Many better products have USB options. Avoid plug ins if you don’t like wires.” What kind of price range should we be looking at to be sure we get something high quality (like, is the material of an $8 vibrator eventually going to give me cancer or something)? Dr. Kat: “Although research has been inconclusive on the direct relationship between sex toy material and cancer, it is assumed that there are materials that are more body friendly than others. Silicone, glass and certain metals are considered higher quality [If you have sensitive skin, you probably want to shop in this category]. Granted, some people don’t mind using lower grade plastic sex toys as they will probably not be coming into continued contact with the vaginal membranes—you won’t be wearing it all day. Lower priced toys may be a good way to initially figure out what stimulation works well for you; then you can upgrade later on. If you want to start with quality, there are plenty of mid-range products ($25-45) that can meet your needs.”

  Do you have any lube advice? Dr. Kat: “Use lube! Lubricant makes everything more slippery, and will undoubtedly make any sex toy experience more enjoyable. A toy that feels too big or vibrates too strongly might feel just right with the addition of a little lube. The main thing to remember is to test it on your skin to be sure you don’t have any reactions to it, preferably on the inside of your wrist versus the sensitive skin in your vagina. Although water based lubes seem to do the trick for most people, make sure that if you are sensitive that there are no additives like dyes, colors or alcohol. You can also go organic if you prefer. Be aware that some oils and silicone lubes may make some sex toy materials break down, especially if they aren’t cleaned properly.” Speaking of, can you tell them more about keeping toys clean—especially keeping in mind most of us have roommates? Dr. Kat: “Keep a good anti-bacterial soap near your sink. There are also specialty toy cleaners on the market. You can use condoms on your toys if they are easier to dispose of versus clean. If your bathroom isn’t en suite, keep a small clean towel to wrap your used toy in to take it to and from the bathroom for cleaning. Air drying toys tends to be best, but if you don’t feel comfortable keeping them out in your room, make sure you dry them completely (every nook and cranny) with a clean towel.

  Store them in a cool, dark and dry location. Make sure you don’t allow your toys to touch in storage. Sometimes the materials may interact with one another and cause them to break down. There are even anti-bacterial bags and incognito storage units designed specifically for this purpose. Take the batteries out if you don’t use your toys regularly. Batteries can corrode, ruining your toy. Also, don’t forget that you can transfer certain STIs via unclean sex toys. Try not to share them with your partner unless you use a condom or wash them thoroughly. Never transfer your sex toy from your anus directly into your vagina as this may cause an infection.” Do vaginal toys interfere with an IUD at all? Dr. Kat: “Typically vaginal toys do not cause any issues with IUDs. However, if for some reason your IUD wasn’t placed properly or dislodges, I could see how there might be an issue. Also, if you are more prone to infections, make sure you keep your toys very clean so that additional pathogens don’t make their way up the string.” When and how should beginners incorporate sex toys into a relationship? Dr. Kat: “You may not want to break out your vibe the first time you have sex with someone, but I do suggest that you introduce your partner to it within the first few times you have sex. This way, they’ll know that you already incorporate the use of a toy and may be less intimidated by it. If you wait too long, you run the risk of your partner thinking you are hiding it from them. Plus you will potentially miss the opportunity to be more orgasmic.

  You may want to purposely leave your toy out one night so it is readily accessible and/or ask them if you can show them how to use it on you. Too many women don’t do this and then their partners end up never learning how to pleasure them with their own toys.” Any other advice for sex toy beginners? Dr. Kat: “Go solo. Play with your toy alone before introducing it into couples play, this way you learn what feels good and can show your partner. Try one toy that does several things. Instead of committing to one type of toy, try a toy that vibrates and is insertable, or one that can be used in a harness and for anal stimulation. You might find that you really like to use your new G-spot vibrator for stimulating your nipples. Start small. When buying a toy for insertion, it’s better to err on the small side. If it’s too big you probably won’t play with it, but a toy that’s a little too small can still bring hours of enjoyment.